A throbbing bass line and Auto-Tune vocals blare from the speakers on the ceiling. My husband’s left eyebrow creeps up, a mirror image of my right, and silently asks, “We’re paying a babysitter for this?” We join the line anyway, the savory scent of beans and sharp tang of salsa welcoming us above the din.
In front of us stands a teenage girl who’s been poured into a pair of jeans and a white t-shirt emblazoned with a silver sequined bird. As she shakes out her mane of blonde hair, the gentle honey hue of her natural shade peeks out underneath. Her mom hovers at her side in a larger version of the same uniform (her shirt, also white, features a bedazzled butterfly), trying to get a peak at the iPhone message her daughter is tap, tap, tapping with her thumbs. The two of them are surrounded by a force field of scent – gardenias, freesia, ylang ylang – a perfume counter waiting to order burritos.
When we make it to the counter, a young woman offers a monotone greeting and then pauses, looking at us, her chocolate eyes small behind her glasses, her gloved hands poised expectantly over the tortillas and taco shells. It’s clear that we’re supposed to know what to do next, but we don’t. It’s our first time here.
She shifts her weight from her left leg to her right and launches into her spiel: “Burrito bowl burrito crispy taco soft taco?” My husband rests his hand on the small of my back and nudges me forward, nominating me as the advance team in this particular battle.
“Um, burrito?” I respond uncertainly. It’s enough to set her in motion. I make my way down the line, our reluctant guide coaching me through rice (brown), beans (vegetarian black), salsa (medium), guacamole (yes, please), cheese (sure), sour cream (no, thank you).
After my husband secures his dinner – crispy tacos – we collect our drinks from the soda fountain. I fill my tall paper cup with ice and pull it away from the soda dispenser just after the caramel bubbles of Diet Coke slide over the edge. I slurp the soda from my hand as we scout out a table, in silent agreement to avoid a seat under the speaker.
I climb onto my stool at a high top table and start to unwrap my burrito, peeling back the thin layer of aluminum foil, its metallic ridges warmed by the contents inside. While my husband helps himself to the tortilla chips, a whiff of lime escapes from the bag and reminds me of how hungry I am. I wrangle my burrito into my hands then and take a bite: the hint of lime that was in the air is now in mouth, mixing with piquant cilantro, the smoke of beans, and the cool bite of avocado. It’s surprisingly good.
I smile at my husband and he giggles back, handing me a napkin and brushing his chin with his hand in imitation of a gesture he usually aims at our four year old. I bring my fingers to my chin in reply and find a rogue piece of rice that I sweep into my mouth.
“Buen provecho, babe,” I say. “Happy date night.”

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Funny perspective Kristen.
It is humorous how our implementation of things like dating change so drastically after we are married and have little ones. We just laugh and try to remember what it was like to go out together–unsuccessfully of course.
But the food description did make me hungry.
Oh how I love this. And relate. The world becomes a different place once we have kiddos, no?
xo
Oh yes. Date nights and the pondering of whether it is worth it. It always is. Especially when it involves Chipotle …or similar. And I find that is about all we can afford when we have to take into account the babysitting fee. Date night, always worth it. for sure.
Spot on. Love the description! Buen provecho one and all…
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This touched off a cascade of memory, including the pre-kids, living together, can only afford to split a burrito at Poquito Mas on Cauhenga, and then at the one on Sunset after the kids are born and we can afford two burritos, right through to last night as my seventeen-year-old tries to scrape guacamole off his surgically botched burrito, marveling at how I as his father after all these years could fail to specify no guacamole.
Meanwhile he confirmed that his AP Spanish exam is next week. He knows what time it is, sort of.
Maybe when we wrap ALL of yours, mine and ours into the burrito that is our collective soul, “Buen provecho,” we may cheerfully respond in response to your call.
Poquito Mas? Bruce, we have amazing and authentic Mexican food here and you hit Poquito mas. Oy.
Sorry, don’t mean to sound like the Mexican food snob, but there is much better for the same price or less.
Salsa and Beer, Las Fuentes. Dos Arboles…
Ok, end of thread hijacking.
Once we had a “date night” that involved burgers and going to Costco. THAT was pathetic! I love all the details here–especially the teenager “poured into her jeans.”
I knew we’re all friends for a reason – Once we had a date night that involved a nice meal al fresco. It was a good start except we couldn’t linger because we needed to get to Target before it closed for milk and other oh-so-romantic items like paper towels and shower gel.
Loved your sheepish tone here, Kristen. Like a you know that we know…which of course we all do :)
After this particular date night we went to Kroger. And they say romance is dead…
I’ve been married almost 25 years. We hold hands as we make our way through the grocery store and think life is good because we got to pick out cheese together.
I think this comes because there were many years when I shopped alone and he was at school until late hours. Togetherness, especially the kind that includes the most ordinary, mundane details allows me to feel we’ve mingled our lives again. We made it out of the difficult years of struggle and, if marred a bit, at least still reaching out to one another.
The comfort of that – of knowing it is his hand on my back when it is time to order what is unknown to each of us – is beyond compare.
Sweet :-) We have date night tonight. Quick early dinner, probably Peruvian though. Back home by 8pm.
Love the vivid imagery in this piece Kristen. After kids, date night is definitely redefined.
Beautiful writing. The burrito looks delicious. It was fun to hear provecho!
Such vivid and amazing imagery!! Chipotle!! When I was single, these were the dates I dreamt of:)
Pamela, why did you dream of these dates? My hunch is that you sensed there is a layer of intimacy in the mundane.
What a lovely moment you’ve shared with us, Kristen. We’re right there with you. Yet I find myself strangely hungry…
Okay, okay, let me guess: your town just got a Chipotle? I do not GET Chipotle. Maybe because I live in New Mexico and there are some really spectacular choices of Mexican food. That said, we just got a Chipotle a few months ago and the place is always line-out-the-door PACKED when I drive by! And I love that you evoked Chipotle without ever saying it :) When you come out and visit I am going to show you some mean Mexican food!
Ah, sweet Chipotle. I don’t know how to order there either. Any time I can consume a calorie without my children eating off my plate, I consider it date night so long as my husband is within a 2 state radius. Good for you for getting out. How ’bout those Chipotle beans? Yum. Yum.
Oh fun!
I pink puffy heart date nights *and* Chipotle! {Yum!}
:) sweet …and the burrito looks delicious….happy date night indeed :)
My husband and I have taken to stealing away from work early on the occasional slow Friday afternoon. We meet at the movie theater to sit side by side in the dark holding hands and enjoying a few non-productive still moments together. The kids are in day care and work is all tended to for the week. For just a few moments, we are ourselves together.
You people are good! (Either that or you just eat at Chipotle too often!)
Yes, Chipotle just arrived in our humble town. I don’t love it, but it’s one of very few decent vegetarian options around and I have become a sucker for their guacamole. Oh, and their lime and cilantro rice. Oh, and their black beans…
:)
You do know that Vegan and Vegetarian are Native American words for “bad hunter.” ;)
:)
I like the idea of just chilling with the date night. Sometimes I have such overblown expectations, and want it so fancy and different that it’s hard not to feel deflated when it doesn’t go as planned. We used to date by hanging out and listening to music. Why couldn’t that be enough now?
Haha, I want to bet this is a date night you won’t mind not remembering! Sometimes, just getting out of the house is good enough.
I’m riveted by a date night story at Chipotle…that is how good you are!!!
So funny! I just took my middlest girl out to a similar place and remembered the Joy’s of lunch one on one with a kiddo. Okay. Baby was in arms, but still. And I faded in and out of memories of similar outings before kids, back when we met for random lunches out, back farther to lunches with friends who have flitted out of my life.
Time together is delicious.
What a wonderful evening! I loved your description of the food@!
We have Chipotle and Lime Fresh…both very similar to what you’re describing and both yummy. I will admit, though, that Hubby and I had to adjust our date nights, because whenever we started out with Mexican, we ended up going to bed way too early and way too full! ;)
I went to Chipotle for the first time this past weekend, shared a burrito bowl with husband and was quite pleased! But alas, it was during the day with a whole bunch of people, so not quite a romantic date night. But yes, I do so savor the times I get to say, “I’m going out on a date” as a married mom.
This made me smile, and strangely, made my eyes prick with tears. Why am I so weird? Anyway, loved this line:
My husband rests his hand on the small of my back and nudges me forward, nominating me as the advance team in this particular battle.