Comments on: Bread Crumbs, Stale Crusts, Potions: I Don’t Talk About My Ex

By: BigLittleWolf

BigLittleWolf — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 18:20:12 +0000

Bruce -
You do see all, don’t you…

(Stirring, stirring, muttering, and stirring)

By: BigLittleWolf

BigLittleWolf — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 18:18:29 +0000

Toute une réponse en français – c’est inattendu, et délicieux ! Et si vous étiez en train de me lire chez moi (je souris) – tant mieux. On aime bien croire qu’il y ait un lecteur ou deux de temps en temps – et un lecteur bilingue – c’est même mieux.

Je vous ai laissée un message chez vous. Et moi aussi, contente de faire votre connaissance.

(Grand Petit Loup)

By: Contemporary Troubadour

Contemporary Troubadour — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 17:41:41 +0000

Big Little Wolf, je suis en retard en lisant ce post ici, mais c’est à cause de vos mots puissants chez vous. (Je suis y allée en premier hier.)

Je m’excuse pour les erreurs grammatiques — il y avait quelques ans que j’ai parlé français (ou que j’en ai écrit). Je suis heureuse de faire la connaissance d’une autre personne qui aime cette langue autant que moi.

By: privilegeofparenting

privilegeofparenting — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 04:57:13 +0000

I’m with Eva in my delight at finding two of my faves under one virtual roof today.

As for crumbs, somewhere I once heard that bread was symbolic of the body of Christ and the birds are symbols of spirit… thus it is by Grimm design that the kids are lost in the dark wood, needing to be lost in order to be found.

Certainly you are a bit the trickster, BLW, behind the curtain as we all are in our ways… but those three witches, well I see the wise women at the healing potion indeed—straight from the wishing well, the worried well and the primoridal cauldron/womb in which our kids are collectively cooked (so that they might not grow up to be spineless woodcutters who abandon kids in the forest… oh, but then we weren’t going to be talking about Him—that old Shadow).

Namaste

By: Kristen @ Motherese

Kristen @ Motherese — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 02:32:19 +0000

BLW, thanks again for your post and your thoughtful responses to these comments. It was a pleasuring hosting you at Motherese today.

By: Kristen @ Motherese

Kristen @ Motherese — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 02:31:34 +0000

Thank, Eva, for your kind words.

By: Jack

Jack — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 22:34:26 +0000

There are things I hope my sons come to understand, when they are men.

Several friends are getting divorced now so I have this conversation frequently. I am no expert, but it seems to me that all we can do is our best to take care of the kids.

And we do it with the understanding that they cannot understand some things until they have lived a bit longer and experienced some things.

By: BigLittleWolf

BigLittleWolf — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 20:13:34 +0000

Terry, thank you. What a kind thing to say.

By: BigLittleWolf

BigLittleWolf — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 20:12:39 +0000

Eva, thank you. Some days it feels like I’m doing a lousy job with the “ex” business, which I never thought would basically be a life sentence.

Megan, thank you for what you say. Your remarks are heartening. There are things I hope my sons come to understand, when they are men. It isn’t about what they think of their father; it is about things I believe they blame me for, subconsciously, things I wish I could’ve provided for them. And hoping that when they are adults, when they are parents themselves, perhaps they will understand I did my best with what I had.

By: Eva

Eva — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 19:35:53 +0000

Bread crumbs. What a perfect way of describing the little bits of nourishment, of information that you give to your boys. You give them snapshots that they can assemble into a collage as they see fit. Not too much information, just enough to feed their souls.

This whole “Ex issue” is so messy, so tricky. But I think you’re doing a fabulous job navigating it.

And I’m just so happy to see you here at Motherese! Two of my favorite bloggers in the same place.